Bottoming is one thing; the stigma that comes with bottoming is another thing. I remember vividly a blog post I read where a bottom was recounting his experiences a bottom. At a certain point, he complained of how tops belittled bottoms and made them feel like less of a man. He talked about a certain experience he had in a party where he and another guy were the only bottoms in a room full of tops. While the tops got along so well, the other guy who was a bottom refused to initiate a conversation with him. In fact the other bottom looked at him in a condescended manner as if he was a competitor to him having all the dicks that night.
The tops there that were getting along so well would go on to crack jokes about the bottoms they had been with. They would say how loose this bottom was and how shitty this bottoms ass was. They would complain about how this bottom couldn’t give head and how they had to act like they were enjoying the head just to motivate him. They would complain how this bottom could not ride a dick or couldn’t take dick. All the whole time they were there, they were shaming bottoms as if they were the only ones that mattered in the gay community.
Now, tops would say they have the dick but what would a dick be if it wasn’t entering a bottom. Don’t forget too that bottoms have a dick and we all know that masturbation too can create a sexual ecstasy. Tops would not understand the pain and stress bottoms go through in making sure that they are sexy, neat and ready to receive dick. Most tops have a very long dick but do not know how to use it. It’s not just about having a long dick, it’s about bringing someone pleasure by the long phallus. The truth is that the longer a dick is, the harder it is to take. So as a top with a 9 inch phallus, don’t just pride yourself that you have a long dick you must know how to bring a bottom intense pleasure from your dick and not just pain and cream!!!! If you don’t know this then you shouldn’t stand up when good tops stand up. You are a bad top simply as fuck.
Bottoming shouldn’t be about how masculine or how feminine a guy is or about how long or short the bottoms dick is. Bottoming should be on the premise that you love a dick and you have trained yourself on how to take one. It shouldn’t be imposed on you. It shouldn’t be based on how fat or how slim you are or how big or little your butt is. It is a personal decision and not everyone was built to bottom. I’ve seen fat tops, tops with small dicks and even effeminate tops. In fact 80% of tops I have been with are effeminate and I the bottom, I’m not effeminate. Until we stop looking down on bottoms, we wouldn’t understand their value to the gay world. Peace!!!